A hive runs on a calendar all its own, and so does a family.
In our daily lives as parents, we often must keep pace with school and activities, applications and deadlines, and the quiet pressure of a community where everyone seems to be doing just a bit more. Whether our children are in private school, a competitive public school, or already away at college, so much of our energy goes toward tending to their futures that there is little left over for tending to ourselves.
Yet somewhere between the drop-off line and the next deadline, there is room to pause and ask what we truly want for our children, where our own ideas about achievement first took root, and who we are when we are not being someone’s mother or father.
My hope is that by meeting in person at my private office in Jersey City, just across the Hudson from Lower Manhattan, or via telehealth video and/or phone sessions whether you live in New York, New Jersey, Washington, Maryland, Virginia, Massachusetts, Pennsylvania, or Connecticut, we will find a shared space where you can set down the schedule for an hour and be considered yourself.
Therapy for Parents in New York City and New Jersey
I work with mothers and fathers who are carrying the stress of raising children in high-expectation communities. This is therapy for you, the parent, rather than for your child. Some of what we might explore together:
- Parenting stress and the feeling of never doing enough
- Anxiety around admissions, from kindergarten through college
- Comparison with other families and the pressure to keep up
- Differences between you and your partner about what your children need
- Your own history with achievement and how it shapes your parenting
- The transition as children leave for college and the house grows quiet
- Who you are, and want to be, as your children grow up and away
Do you work with children or teenagers?
I do not see young children. My work is with adults, including parents, and with young adults and college students. I consider older teenagers individually, so please reach out if you would like to talk about your son or daughter.
Is this parent coaching?
No. It is therapy, which means we look beneath the daily decisions to the feelings and history that drive them.
If you’re interested in scheduling time with me, please reach out directly. I look forward to hearing from you!
Practical Details
Where do we meet?
I see patients in person at my private office in Jersey City, a short trip from Lower Manhattan, and by telehealth video or phone for those in New York, New Jersey, Washington, Maryland, Virginia, Massachusetts, Pennsylvania, and Connecticut. Many of my New York patients meet with me by video, and some prefer to come in person.
How do you work?
My approach is psychoanalytically informed, which means we take time to understand the deeper patterns in your life. I also work with the connection between mind and body.
Do you take insurance?
I am an “out of network” provider and do not bill insurance directly. At the end of each month, at your direction, I can provide you with a billing statement that you may be able to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement. These statements must include a diagnosis, which is something we can discuss together. Please contact your insurance company directly if you have any further questions regarding their reimbursement policies.